I will provide more examples as the discussion progresses, but here is a phenomenal example which I am experiencing personally right now.

With my son in the hospital for the past year and a half, plus trying to hold down a full time job to support my family, and doing my best to be there to support my wife as well, I have had very little time to learn. Whatever time I am not working or taking care of my son in the hospital, I need to be there for my wife, and then maybe try to breathe a little myself. For the first few months since my son was born I felt guilty about how little I was learning. I thought maybe if I would get myself a chavrusa a few times a week than I would be able to force myself to learn a bit. My guilt feelings were very uncomfortable and detrimental to myself. I finally asked (emailed) HaRav Tzvi Berkowitz (from Yeshivas Ner Yisroel of Baltimore) a shaila if I should try to push myself to get a chavrusa. What did he tell me?! He told me that for now I should not get a chavrusa! I should just learn whenever I was able to make time!! Rav Berkowitz realized that it would have been too much for me to get a chavrusa; so pushing myself to get a chavrusa would have been for me a misguided perception of G-d’s expectation for me; it would not be what G-d wants from me right now at this stage in my life!